Virginity and Completeness of Oneself

Virginity and Completeness of Oneself

The Concept Based on the song “Like A Virgin” from Glee

“...I didn't know how lost I was until I found you. I was beat incomplete. I'd been had; I was sad and blue, but you made me feel shiny and new. Like a virgin, touched for the very first time…”

When you hear this song, maybe you’d feel like dancing to the beat and you end up singing the song. The song really has a nice tune, but did you ever wonder the underlying concept in this song?

The concept of the loss of virginity in order to complete oneself is introduced in this song. A virgin is woman who has not had any sexual intercourse with the opposite sex. Virginity is the state of being virgin. Virginity, in this song, is paired with incompleteness of oneself.

Completeness of oneself usually pertains to the state wherein one is happy and content with oneself. It usually pertains to the state when one is content with the material or immaterial things one has. It may be a state when one has achieved his goals or got everything he/she wanted that one has no need to complain or ask for anything more, material nor immaterial. It may be a state when one already has appreciation, acceptance of oneself. Completeness of oneself actually depends on the person. Different people have different concepts of “completeness”.

According to the lyrics of the song, a person feels complete when one has found somebody to love. For example, a line in the song says that “I didn’t know how lost I was till I found you”. This implies that when somebody finds someone to love it makes one complete. This completeness is connected with the concept of one’s virginity. In the chorus, a line says “Like a virgin, touched for the very first time…” This line describes a virgin who just lost her virginity. This song implies the idea that one is incomplete when a woman is still like a virgin, or still hasn’t got any sexual intercourse with a man. When a woman is “touched for the very first time” or when she loses her virginity and has had sexual activity with a man, she feels good, happy, strong and bold. In the beginning a woman is “beat incomplete” but after a woman is “touched for the very first time”, she no longer feels incomplete. Thus, she must have completeness in herself if she no longer feels incomplete. The bottom line, according to the song lyrics, is that in order to be incomplete, one has to experience sexual intercourse with the opposite sex.

That idea or concept is according to the lyrics, if you look at it that way. But actually, that isn’t always the case. For example, in the episode of Glee where they sang this song, they actually wanted to find themselves and be complete, but in the end they all refused to do it. Maybe, for them this isn’t really what it means to be complete. This idea of completeness may be true for a number of people but it doesn’t really mean that it is true for all. Different people have different views for “completeness” of themselves. The idea that this song is introducing is actually misleading especially to people who still don’t have a concept of “completeness” in themselves. The bad thing is that we sing this song not really knowing what we’re all singing about.

-------------

This essay is written by Ann Elizabeth P. Rollon, July 14, 2010 for English10. This was submitted 15 July 2010 to Maam Liway Ruizo. :)

♥♥♥

lovelovelove,eLise.

♥♥♥